It is not easy being a caregiver. Honestly, most of the time, I don’t even think I’m doing it well. Sometimes, I think my eager-to-help kids are better at caregiving for their father than I am.
But that’s why I’m here. I’m here to be raw, real, and not sugarcoat my life and struggles. Being there for someone else’s most basic needs (the medical world calls them “ADLs” or Activities of Daily Living) is incredibly challenging. And you may not think of it this way, but you’ve got to. Self care has to be number one.
Because, if you don’t take good care of yourself, you are not going to be able to take care of your loved one. If I decide not to eat breakfast, or to sleep in, not get dressed, or not shower that day, then my husband is going to suffer consequences of that-in addition to what he’s already going through.